My meaning: Regardless of whatever curveball life throws your way, it’s the reality of the world you live in. Even if it’s not a sporadic turn of events but instead the result of a choice/decision you deliberately made, it still is what it is whether it’s a harsh reality or an appealing one. No matter what’s happening, it’s happening: respond accordingly.
Alternatively, no matter where you are physically, that’s where your literal presence lies. You could be millions of miles away mentally, you’ll still be wherever you are physically, no matter how you got there.